Ask Chris: Engaged Couples and Physical Intimacy – What’s Too Far?

For engaged couples, when it comes to physical intimacy, how far is too far? Well, the obvious answer is, sex is too far. Let’s face it, you are engaged to be married, so why not wait for all the benefits? While married, you now share last names, bank accounts, families, housing, taxes and credit. Most pleasurably, you now have the luxury of sharing the deepest intimate moments with each other, going places that no one else has the ability to experience. Put it this way: if you are not a virgin, why not allow your future husband or wife to experience … Continue reading Ask Chris: Engaged Couples and Physical Intimacy – What’s Too Far?

Shout Out To Stuart Smalley…

It’s all about encouragement today. Here are six challenges for you to encourage yourself and others. Shout out to Stuart Smalley from SNL when he said, “I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And doggone it… people like me.” We all need that in our lives. So here are three things to tell yourself today, and three things to tell someone else: YOURSELF I am one step closer to my dream. Someone needs to hear my heart today. Whose frown can I turn upside down today? OTHERS Are you igniting your passions today? How can I help you today? It does not have to be … Continue reading Shout Out To Stuart Smalley…

Go For It… What Is “It”?

We all have desires. Whether short or long term, people feel a sense of belonging when they see themselves making an impact. Especially, when they are making an impact based off of something they are passionate about. Sure, there are many ideas that we have to change the world, but what is that “thing” in which you know that you are so passionate about? To give a strong indicator, it is usually the “thing” that  you can see and taste it happening, and you are the spearhead in making it happen. Another strong indicator is, if I surveyed 10 people, … Continue reading Go For It… What Is “It”?

Compart Mental Lies

So many times in our lives we deal with people who do not believe in us. Whether it is the way we look, speak, or smile, people are victims of prejudice far too often. Unfortunately, these prejudices can affect people deeper than you think. Oftentimes – especially men – we mask our true hurts by having a bravado that commands attention and acceptance. When, in fact, there is an inner cry that continues to be unheard. Eventually, that voice will be unable to speak any longer, and will turn numb. Then, a sense of feeling calloused and nonchalant trumps a … Continue reading Compart Mental Lies

Common, Common?

What people in your life do you appreciate the most? Let them know that. We all have an inner ego monster that stays hungry. It is up to you to either feed it until it gets fat and harmful, or give it a healthy and balanced diet, so it can work for you and help you boost up others. Evaluate these 10 questions, and think about the first person that comes to mind. Do it instinctively; don’t try to make it someone that it really is not. If it is not your spouse that you are thinking about, that’s okay. … Continue reading Common, Common?

Out with the Gavel… In with the Gatorade.

It is so easy for people to look at another person’s flaws first. Moreover, it is easy for others to discriminate. Not only is it common in the society that we live in, but it is engrained in us to do it. In a sick way, it provides a form of therapy, and becomes addictive like a drug. Yes, judgment and discrimination are drugs, and can be addictive when it becomes natural for a person to automatically make an assessment of someone. Maturity comes in removing personal biases. On the contrary, it is our duty to judge in a loving, positive … Continue reading Out with the Gavel… In with the Gatorade.

Sick and Tired? Take A Pill.

Complaining is such an easy emotional outlet. In fact, it is even a default to many. Finding all the things about life that is wrong oftentimes allow us to exhale on personal responsibility. I don’t know if you caught that. In other words, complaining about something or some person(s) ejects ourselves from being responsible to change what we are complaining about. Instead of the risk of getting muddy in order to embark change, we stay away and look down in order to make a negative comment about it. Our hands stay clean, and we expect someone else to assume the … Continue reading Sick and Tired? Take A Pill.

Mr. Mo Mentum

There’s a guy that is very popular around these neck of the woods. Now, this does not mean that everyone likes him. However, just about everyone knows about him. His name is Mr. Mo Mentum. Loved and hated, embraced and shunned, accepted and rejected, he receives a gamut of feelings his way every single day. The funny thing is, he is ALWAYS willing to help. The problem is, though, not everyone wants his help. Not because they don’t need it. We ALL do. But, it is because many are too scared to admit that they need his help, even if … Continue reading Mr. Mo Mentum

Survey Says…

“I don’t care what people think of me.” This is one of the most selfish and hazardous beliefs that anyone can have. In fact, not only does it show a disconnect from the world around you, but it prevents someone from digesting hard truths that need to be marinated and reflected upon. Far too many times do people use pride and arrogance to mask genuine pain and disgust within one’s self. One of the easiest outlets to deflect these sharp but helpful evaluations is self-aggrandizement. Haven’t we all heard people use phrases such as, “I don’t need anyone,” “they just hatin,” … Continue reading Survey Says…